Ever bought or tried on a garment and said to yourself: “I LOVE this. But I’d NEVER wear it in public!”?
We berate our love handles, tummies, arms, faces, legs, thighs. We hate on ourselves. We tell ourselves this color doesn’t look good; that shape isn’t right; we allow a constant flow of negative talk in our minds (especially when those dressing room mirrors aren’t flattering.)
Today let’s talk about CONFIDENCE.
This post and Boho Brewed episode 4 (watch at the bottom of this post!) was inspired my our community member and gorgeous gal Jenny! She sent us a message suggesting a topic for Boho Brewed — HUGE SHOUT OUT TO YOU JENNY!!! She wrote:
“I love boho style on others but I always feel daft wearing it myself, as if I’m in a costume….I’d love some tips to do a sort of “boho lite” to break me in gently. Love your style, blog and insta. Also love that you are a real woman with hips and boobs, lots of boho style seems aimed at people with straight up and down frames — which I do not have!” ~Jenny
I believe if clothing doesn’t look good on you, it’s not your body that’s “wrong”, it’s the garment. It’s simply not possible for every single piece of clothing to complement your unique shape and style.
And that’s ok.
However, I see this in my clients, in the beautiful babes who experience Build Your Boho Capsule Wardrobe, and the Budget Bohemian Community on Facebook:
a lack of confidence.
++we don’t believe our bodies are WORTH showing off.
++we only focus on the sagging, marks, and fat rolls.
This reminds me of the words of a fashion icon and incredible woman:
The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mode but the true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives the passion that she shows. The beauty of a woman grows with the passing years. ~Audrey Hepburn
Here’s the TRUTH, boho babes! Your style is not just for you. You do not get dressed in a vacuum, you do not live alone in a cave.
(If you do, I’m impressed by your wifi capabilities LMAO)
There are ALWAYS little eyes watching you. No matter who you are I can guarantee that at least ONE person looks up to you, mimics you, and patterns their behavior on you.
Especially if you’re a parent, a mentor, a teacher, an elder sibling/cousin/friend.
I remember being 5 years old and seeing my mom crying over her figure in the bathroom. She HATED her tummy. It hadn’t even crossed my mind to ever hate anyone’s body (including my own). I was unconscious of people’s physical flaws; I just met them heart-first, as children will. Seeing my mother hate her body planted the seed for my own body-hate later on.
Now, to be clear, this is not my mother’s fault per se. She probably had no idea how big of an impression this would make on me.
We we do, say, and feel is REFLECTED in the children around us. As adults, we form the next generation.
Remember: children learn through absorption. They’re beautiful, innocent, sweet sponges. Let’s teach our little girls and boys to LOVE that they have bodies. To LOVE that they have muscle, fat, hair, skin. To appreciate what’s beautiful about themselves.
Now you’re probably thinking: HOW can I feel more confident?
I absolutely love the phrase Jenny used: “boho-lite.” This implies touches of bohemian such as in your accessories, a color choice, or silhouette but it’s not “over the top.”
Now, if you’re having trouble identifying YOUR form of boho, YOUR form of personal style, YOUR form of sleek/unconventional/confident/sexy/comfy it’s because you’re limiting yourself to ONE label. (Read a blogpost on how to find YOUR personal style here!)
My definition of boho is free-spirited. This means saying “fuck off” to labels, this means combining pieces or colors you wouldn’t normally think to put together, this means OWNING your magic and your light.
If you think bohemian HAS TO BE over-the-top, bold, bright, with crazy luxurious jewelry — I’m here to tell you it isn’t.
Bohemian style is all about finding what makes YOU FEEL FREE!
You ready to FIND what style reflects YOUR soul, YOUR vision and YOUR lifestyle? You ready to set your inner goddess free — whatever that means to you? Watch episode 4 of Boho Brewed, right here!
Boho Brewed is a weekly talk show made FOR and BY bohemian babes, that airs every week on Tuesday at 10am EST on the Budget Bohemian public Facebook page. It’s a time for us to hangout, drink tea/coffee/preferred beverage, and talk all things bohemian style, capsule wardrobes and self-care. Like + follow to get the notifications when we go LIVE!
Do you wanna work with me to create YOUR unique, magical, bohemian capsule wardrobe? Check out your options here!
Thanks for watching!